tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3727103479255164461.post9028727347958318198..comments2024-02-16T02:34:17.281-06:00Comments on The Lily Field: Why We Will Not Be SterilizedAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10771660422142873021noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3727103479255164461.post-47299109065844296992015-01-03T10:57:43.618-06:002015-01-03T10:57:43.618-06:00Yea this is hard, Jess. Because I have a funny fee...Yea this is hard, Jess. Because I have a funny feeling that my answer to this is only going to leave you with more questions or feelings of apprehension/confusion. Of course those with "grave reasons" should be wise, however they discern and interpret that for themselves, in regards to bringing children into this world. This isn't about throwing all caution to the wind and "just being another family of Duggars". This is ultimately about responsible marriage/parenthood -- and WE see it as not "standing in the way of God or what He intends" by avoiding sterilization and contraceptives. WE have chosen to use Natural Family Planning in our marriage -- observing my fertility cycle and making a decision to abstain in seasons of "you name it" (there a several posts on this under my Natural Family Planning tab). Twice since we've been married we've chosen to abstain during "fertile periods of my cycle" (lasting approx. 7-9 days) due to medical and financial reasons. But 7-9 daaaays!? Most people I tell that to freak out on me! Lol. But I feel like even WITHOUT using Natural Family Planning that a whole week easily slips by without having sex! Am I right?! I mean -- you just get busy with other things and yea. Also the point of "effectiveness" always comes up. But to that I can only say I know dozens of babies born while their mother was on "the pill" or their father was sterilized. It happens. Abstinence is 100% effective though -- as long as you know and really follow the "plan". And even then -- God steps in sometimes! Which I think is crazy awesome-- because He ultimately knows what is best. But you might not believe in God so that could possibly mean nothing to you. I don't know. Sooooo like I said -- this response is just hard as it obviously stems from my deep love for my God and faith. I just think there are "other ways" around sterilization and contraception that don't have physical consequences (I've never met a woman not suffering from one or more side effects of hormonal birth control or a tubal ligation) or emotional effects on a marriage due to hormones/feelings/emotions being disturbed/hurt from what the "system" says is a medically sound idea. So yes. Like I said, I'm sure this will only bring up more questions, confusion or even feelings of disgust towards my personal beliefs. But believe me when I say: I TRULY believe with my WHOLE HEART in the well being of men, women, and babies!!! MY views are not an attack either -- but simply a way of life that WE have chosen to live. A way that brings so much joy, peace, health, and happiness to our marriage and family life. But yea. Not everyone sees that or gets that. And that's ok. Just sharing my heart <3 <br /><br />Thanks for commenting and being respectful about it! Means a lot. I know these topics can get heated as they come SO CLOSE to the center of who we are as humans. God bless you!!! XOAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10771660422142873021noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3727103479255164461.post-90585170010630068902015-01-02T23:34:46.333-06:002015-01-02T23:34:46.333-06:00And what of those that are not financially able to...And what of those that are not financially able to care for all of these children?? Should they continually put their unwanted children up for adoption or worse...just abort them?? And what of those who are not mentally capable of taking care of all these children?? I hardly think that letting children starve due to lack of food/money or just adding them to the several thousand other unwanted children in the system all because you don't feel that "sterilization" should happen. I'm not trying to attack you, but I feel that your belief on this matter is seriously lacking a deeper insight.Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11020641464074967295noreply@blogger.com