Thursday, October 24, 2013

Do Opposites Attract?

Nathan and I share dominating temperaments and the exact same love language.
We're both the oldest child in our families and thrive in leadership roles.
We love to be with people, but recuperate better by being alone or with family.
We've got dueling, type A personalities, and I read in a book one time that if we were a
celebrity couple we'd look a lot like Bill and Hillary Clinton. Minus all the junk of course.
I would hope so! Vote for us? 2016.

We're literature lovers, pet haters, pizza connoisseurs, music makers, Jesus fans,
firm believers, dialogue gurus, neat freaks, sleep addicts, adventure seekers,
creativity choreographers, big dreamers, emotional souls...
essentially kindred spirits on every level.

Except I love ice-cream and Nathan prefers sorbet. Sorbet? Pa-lease. Skinny people food.

I feel like we break the rule: "opposites attract."
How about you and yours? Similar or obviously opposites?

Regardless of the combination, I think that most couples would agree with me that
"connecting" with your spouse is essential to a thriving relationship.
::: current favorite things to do together :::

learn new songs to harmonize and play with our guitar and djembe

read our respective books and then share all the details with the other

share something warm to drink // the salted caramel apple cider from Starbucks
is one we both can whole-heartedly agree upon!

put the kids in the stroller or on bikes + walk and talk

hash out our latest dreams and newest endeavors

watch old, but favorite, movies

Like I said, whether opposites attract or not, I don't know.
But I DO know that if you PLAN to connect, you'll find that all the opposite or similar
rigmarole will fly out the window. Attraction is attraction! That's the rule.
And that's the way, uh-huh uh-huh, we like it.

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  1. :) I don't really know what to say other than I love seeing photos of you. You are such a free and beautiful's beautiful. I love to hear you talk about your dreams, adventures and the little things you enjoy!

    1. Awww thank you, Shannon! I am so happy to share!!! God bless you XO

  2. Now the question is...does not being so "opposite" make marriage any easier? :) I think my hubby and I are actually pretty much the "opposites attract"....which brings out the best and the worst in us but makes us both so much more balanced :)

    1. That's awesome, Chandelle! Yea, I don't think either way makes things easier in general. Honestly, I know for my own marriage, that having JESUS at the heart of it all makes the difference for us! Since Nathan and I both have dominating temperaments- arguments can become very "intense"! But Jesus - Jesus is key for us!

      And I think that sharpening each other is such a beautiful way to grow! Painful sometimes - but beautiful!!!

    2. You're so right! Without Jesus and the reminder that marriage is a covenant, not a contract, it would be often easy to just say "I give up". Luckily the Holy Spirit gives us the strength, wisdom, and love to continue on, allowing marriage to be the blessing that it really is!

      And I finally understand what Paul meant when he said that it would be easier to be single than married. Marriage is definitely a blessing, but such a growing experience, learning to really pore out God's love unselfishly on another. Man I'm so much more selfish than I ever thought when I was single! Not to mention before having kids!

      Love following your blog! You are such and encouragement and inspiration :)

  3. You two are adorable. I just love the things you love and that you both love them. Yeah. :) I'm kinda new to your blog, but can we be friends? ;) Cider and a music date sounds absolutely perfect.

    1. YES, of course we can be friends, Laura!!! I was just snooping on your blog and can I just say that you take beautiful photos?! Thanks for stopping in the field :-) Please make yourself at home - and I look forward to getting to know you, new friend XO

  4. Brittany

    I love reading your blog!
    As far as your question... me and mine would be fit into "opposite attack" category. We challenge each other almost every day but it helps us grow and learn to love more. We do help each other to be more balanced and find a middle ground. Jeremiah is strong willed, passionate, intense and dominating. I am a little easier going, a "butterfly" as Jeremiah likes to call me, calm, and creative. Jeremiah is very "manly" emotionally and physically and I am super feminine. That is just the surface of our differences. We probably agree mostly in our love, admiration for each others different personalities, and morals. We know that neither of us is perfect or might not have the right way to do everything but with each other we can figure it out.

    We are opposites but I know how blessed I am to have my husband. And I pray that God can help us with all the rest.

    1. T H A N K S, Natalie!!! So sweet! And can I just say that I L O V E all that you shared?! Laws of attraction, the beauty of love, the magic of marriage - all so good! God is good!!!

      Just watching you on Facebook, I can totally see the complementing masculine and feminine spirits that you two share :-) Keep up the great work - keep falling in love - have more beautiful babies!!!!

      I pray God can help us too!!!! We wouldn't get very far without Him!! <3


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