If I saw them in public, I would run up and beg to be their friend. For real. #crazyfan
I commend them for having the courage to step out and talk about what they believe and practice.
It's lighting a fire under my own butt for sure. I think we all can be encouraged by this bonfire.
Let me clue you in: Kody Brown and his four wives + 17 children are the TLC stars of the reality
series: SISTER WIVES. The show came up as a recommendation for me on Netflix. It's scary how
well Netflix knows us, huh!? I devoured season 1, 2, 3 & 4 - and now I'm seriously contemplating
buying the next few seasons off Amazon because Netflix may be good, but they are slow.
I told my husband one night that it was seriously scaring me how "tolerant" I felt towards
the idea of polygamy. Not for me, OH NO, but for others - if they wanted that "lifestyle".
FUN FACT: polygamy is mainly practiced by the FUNDAMENTALIST CHURCH OF JESUS
CHRIST OF LATTER DAY SAINTS. These are NOT the mainstream Mormons that come
knocking on your door. The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints gave up
the practice more than 120 years ago.
I'll be almost asleep at night and then blurt out something like,
"I couldn't handle sister wives - I think we are innately monogamous!"
To which my husband will sleepily respond, "That's good. But if you decide to
'take another HUSBAND' can you make sure he's a doctor or something so he can help pay
some of our bills?!" And I'll bite the bait and start explaining polygamy vs. polyandry...
to my husband's great amusement. It's all arm punches and wedgies from there.
From a very female, human perspective - the idea of being one of many wives is repulsive.
It all sounds so suppressive. Put away your natural feelings of jealousy and desire for your husband
and "get better" - "get holier" by practicing sharing, letting go, and loving your husband AND
your sister wives. The whole idea of "celestial marriage" really seems to be a great plan to
earn favor with God and some beachfront property in heaven. Twiiiiiisted.
But I'm sure some of you see me the same way as a Catholic - fasting, confessing to a "priest",
holy days of obligation, laps around the rosary... I'll give room for perspective.
Just saying, you all can visit me in my heavenly villa by the sea. That's a joke.
In general, they say that 50% of marriages end in divorce, and from there...
two thirds of them reported that the Internet played a significant role in the divorces,
with excessive interest in online porn contributing to more than half such cases.
It is believed that 68 percent of divorce cases involved one party meeting a new paramour
over the Internet, 56 percent involved 'one party having an obsessive interest in pornographic websites,' 47 percent involved 'spending excessive time on the computer,' and 33 percent
involved spending excessive time in chat rooms (a commonly sexualized forum). (1)
I guess my point: people get DIVORCED over feeling betrayed...
over the idea of sharing their spouse with someone else - emotionally or physically.
Created monogamous are we?
fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and then closed up
the place with flesh. Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man,
and he brought her to the man.
The man said,
'This is now bone of my bones
and flesh of my flesh;
she shall be called ‘woman,’
for she was taken out of man.'
That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife (NOT wives),
and they become one flesh. Adam and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame."
- Genesis 2:20-25
I've heard the Browns argue their "lifestyle" from Scripture saying that because some of the
great patriarchs and prophets, Abraham, Moses, and King David - to name a few, took multiple
wives and were OBVIOUSLY used to establish the lineage of Jesus and usher in the Kingdom of God
then POLYGAMY MUST BE OK. I mean King David, a man after God's own heart, was doing it...
with her and her and her...
It just seems that the whole thing contradicts Genesis - the whole creation story.
One man for one woman - an ORIGINAL GOODNESS, an ORIGINAL PLAN. After the fall,
many things became tainted and men turned from God committing all kinds of sins.
But it was not this way from the beginning.'" - Matthew 19:8
Just because things were done in the Bible does not mean they were
intended, holy, or part of God's plan for His people.
contradicted by polygamy; this, in fact, directly negates the plan of God which was
revealed in the beginning, because it is contrary to equal person dignity of men
and women who in matrimony give themselves with a love that total and therefore
unique and exclusive." - Catechism of the Catholic Church 2387
So what would Jesus do with polygamists? You tell me.
Obviously this post is a tad on the "Jesus-y" side, but the Brown family claims to be
Christian - so I'm meeting them where they at. I don't wish to impose my religious beliefs on
individuals as I believe that is contradictory to the Gospel any way, but I do wish to talk about it.
Do you think in the name of "RELIGIOUS FREEDOM" bigamy should be made
legal in the U.S.? Why or why not? Brave souls, talk to me.
(1) Jill Manning, Senate Testimony, November 10, 2005, referencing: J. Dedmon,
“Is the Internet bad for your marriage? Online affairs, pornographic sites playing
greater role in divorces,” 2002, press release from American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers